What are the qualities of a husband material? Does your perfect partner need to have a decent job, an inexhaustible bank account, or an interminable love?
Whether you are a single lady out there who is looking for the right companion, a married woman who wants to energize her husband to be a better one, a single guy who wants to be the best husband to his future wife, or a married man who aspires to be a good husband to his wife…this article on qualities of a husband material is for you.
Oh telenovela, what a harm you have caused our society!
The common thread in most cases is that majority of women are choosing men who are not husband or even relationship material and hoping by some chance he will by knight suddenly transform and be shining in an armour she wants.
This type of situation doesn’t exist anywhere aside from cheesy romantic comedies. If you choose to pursue a relationship with a guy who is not ’t relationship material, then you are setting yourself up to fail before you even begin.
First things first, note that something happens when you get older. Your priorities shift, and the things you never used to care about when seeking out a significant other all of a sudden become Super-important. Things that you used to tolerate (or didn’t even notice) when dating in your youth are now deal-breakers.
Before we delve into the qualities you should anticipate in husband material, note that this article is not meant for those who have come to believe in today’s standards for selecting husband material. We will explain better going forward.
Here are our top ten qualities of a husband material
But here before we get into this, you can read our guide on qualities of a wife material here.
1. Someone who truly respects women.
Respect should be your top priority that is why we are covering that first.
Look for someone who doesn’t use the word “bitch” or “ho” when describing other women (or you). He doesn’t follow an abundance of porn accounts on social media (hello, we can SEE you.)
Look out for someone who is chivalrous and kind and polite. He treats you with respect and doesn’t talk down to you or berate you. This is crucial for your happiness in the relationship.
2. He loves your good qualities and accepts and embraces the bad without making you feel guilty for having flaws.
You don’t need to and you shouldn’t ever hide your true self from him and put on a front to be what you think he wants.
For how long can you pretend? He is going to find out as time goes on. It is always good advice to stay real to yourself and him.
You can share your true self and be vulnerable and feel safe doing so, knowing that if anything it will make him feel even closer to you. Yeah, that makes sense than trying to portray a good character. Marriage is a long term journey and we bet you cannot afford to misrepresent yourself for 40+ years.
3. He is there for you when you need him, even if it’s inconvenient for him.
Yeah, the system is working 24/7. Every good partnership will and should sometimes require sacrifice and compromise. Life is just unpredictable and unexpected.
You can’t predict what will happen and nothing will go as planned 100% of the time.
A guy who is husband material will be there for you when you need him, he will be in it with you, he will be your partner in whatever happens and will weather the storm with you, even though he might prefer to stay in the sunshine.
4. You are part of his decision making, both big and small ones.
A relationship is a partnership, not a dictatorship. Factoring you in his decisions shows that he respects you, that he wants to create a life with you, not simply envelope you in his world.
Our worlds can be comfortable, it is not always easy taking someone else into account, factoring in their wants and needs and preferences, but that is what a relationship is.
If you are in your early stages of the relationship and you seem not to experience this, think about it twice. The basic reason for getting into the relationship is to have a good time together, not for months but years. Yeah, think twice.
5. One of the good qualities of a husband material is Independence
Look out for someone who doesn’t rely on his parents or your parents to provide you and your children with food, shelter, and other fundamental needs as a family. He must be someone who works hard to give you a home you can truly call your own.
If your husband is lazy, unless you sacrifice; something which looks erratic in our society. We won’t even advise you to do that. He should be hardworking, it’s a prerequisite for every young guy who is serious about life and it is one of the crucial good qualities of a husband material.
A husband material should be a reliable person, he should have initiative and knows how to counsel and lead your family to the right path.
When you are with him, you know that you could never be lost in life. This is why you are willing to submit yourself to him as his wife. He should be someone your children will want to look up to, a good role model for your entire family.
No, don’t give that space. He shouldn’t cheat. He shouldn’t flirt with other women. He should be scared of losing you.
If your partner is not scared of losing you, that should communicate how he values you. You are precious and should be treated as such. And to you the lady, you have to do what will make him keep up to you alone too. You have to know what he likes and do that.
He should be someone you don’t have to always worry about because you know that he can take good care of himself whenever and wherever he finds himself.
He loves himself as he loves you and the family. He strives to be happy and healthy so he can always be there for you and your children.
9. He trusts you
He is supposed to be someone who has confidence in you. He doesn’t treat you like someone who is a cheat and cannot be trusted in the relationship. He also entrusts you with all his property, money, and recurring salary.
But hey, you need a lot of commitment to be trusted with this. It is just not easy getting to this level but, it is possible.
10. One of the signs of a husband material is the two having common beliefs and values
This particular quality seems so apparent yet it’s so frequently overlooked. If he is going to be your life partner, you have to make sure you both are on the same page when it comes to issues that matter.
And if you aren’t on the same page, then make sure he respects where you stand, your view (and vice versa) and that you both are willing to work together to reach a mutually fulfilling middle ground.
This can refer to religion, core values, lifestyle preferences, where you want to live, the number of kids you want to have and what have you.